Mirrors:

Reflecting on the same subject with a slight angling of the mirror. One mirror, a thousand stories. 

 If we take the time, and we stop to look. If we listen while thinking, and try to truly observe, we will see life constantly showing us reflections of ourselves. It is life that moulds and shapes us, not people. Life presents to us, only those people who have significance to our growth. People who seem to be bad are not bad, they are simply a poignant lesson to be learnt. A virtual book. An important part of our growth. What they do is essentially significant, in reality, only to their lives, because only they truly understand why they do what they do to you ( which in effect results in self damage, because  their behaviour becomes moulded into their personality). 

The fact that you notice them as having a role in your life is merely them presenting as an image. It's life showing that you need to learn from this person's behaviour. The worse the behaviour the greater the value of the lesson to be learnt. It's a check-yourself signal. We need these check signals at various intervals in our life. Becoming confrontational with your check signal image is losing the message. It will keep returning in different formats until you understand it. Take each person that comes to your life as a mirror of your own self. As a part of your personality that needs adjusting, even when they bring good...gather the good and resolve to grow more.

This messaging is a two-way action. The messenger has something to learn from the interaction. But it is up to the messenger to recognise how the message they are carrying with their behaviour toward you, affects their own character. A lot of persons feel stronger when dominating others. They feel better as the harasser, the one to make the other person feel weak and insignificant. Or, the one to make the other person fail. If we understand that every person that passes through our life is a reflection of self, then we think twice about being comfortable with dominance over others.

Years ago, I began to see "into the mirror" at my weakest moments in life. I saw bullies actually demonstrating a strength which I really had, but not in the way which I would have acted...not in a way which showed balance. As years went by I began to accept that we will never be perfect and people do come into our lives as our own virtual realities to show us the next step forward or to show us what we have accomplished in the development of our personalities, or even to show us what we may have been doing wrong. I believe that no-one will come into your life nor cross your path, who does not have a contribution to make to your growth. It's really in your own hands the degree to which you benefit from the encounter. Don't argue yourself out of making the change.

We sometimes allow denial to cause us to want to blame the other person for our poor reflection which we see in them.

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Maybe that terrible person is showing a side to us which we want to deny but which needs to be confronted and fixed. Maybe the passive person you are trying to dominate is showing you that there is a better side to you which you are ignoring. You will only be able to gather that through genuine humility and desire to grow. This means that only you can make the decision to grow. You can't pretend. Life controls genuineness, and will only transfer the truth in your personality. See the people in your life as mirrors, reflections of yourself, no matter how unattractive that reflection may be, it is the current truth. If you accept it, every time you look into that mirror you will feel great discomfort, even disgust, but you can now begin to use the mirrors to guide you to a reflection which you are more comfortable with. If you accept the reflections with humility, even in the midst of your disgust, even as the image is burdensome, you will be able to make the changes to your appearance/personality without hating, which really only makes the reflection more unattractive.
Don't let your truth be one that is unattractive.                                

Reflect upon it.